Saturday, September 12, 2015

Book Excerpt: THE 110 Defines True Success

You and I live in a celebrity-driven culture; and our flawed definition of success is largely based on how far we have climbed the proverbial ladder of success, especially if we can somehow manage to squeeze fifteen minutes of fame into that climb.

However, THE 110 have a different definition of success.  THE 110 are not interested in simply being celebrities; they are too busy being everyday heroes. I mean no disrespect to celebrities because there are plenty of A-listers who are part of THE 110 in their tireless efforts to help others. I simply mean that being well known is not the ultimate goal for THE 110.

Whether or not there is some element of fame attached, THE 110 understand that the true definition of success is two-fold. First, success is about setting realistic goals, both personally and socially, and then working toward, attaining and even exceeding those goals. Second, success is about making a positive impact in the lives of the people and the world around us.

Let's take a moment and look at the idea of a ladder of success. The image of a ladder, while being a very popular way to measure achievement in our culture, is flawed because it creates a mental image that we must always climb. The ladder reiterates the false notion that, in order to be successful, we must continue to ascend higher and higher, often at the expense of others.

I would like to propose to you a new metaphor to measure your success: a garden.

Rather than climbing over people to get further up the ladder, what if you and I worked to make our garden more fruitful? What if the measure of our success was not based on how high we could climb but rather on how many people could come and feast on the fruit of our lives?

What if our measure of success was not based on our social altitude but rather on the number of people whose lives were enriched by our labors?

". . . to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded." – Ralph Waldo Emerson, credited

Wow!  What an amazing definition of success!

THE 110 exists to leave the world "a bit better . . ."

THE 110 is a new reality, a state of being, a lifestyle based on ethics.  It is about transcending clichés, short-term actions, economic classifications, and political affiliations.  It is about mastering the basics and experiencing true success, true impact, and true exceptional living.  It is about breaking through your perceived maximum capacity and living above and beyond your potential.  You are amazing, and you are capable of unleashing THE 110 within you!

To read more book excerpts about THE 110, check out the links below:

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Happiness 02: The Quest Continues...

The quest continues . . .

There is much to say about - and even more to learn about - the subject of happiness. It is, doubtless, a huge topic! Wikipedia.com states that, "A variety of biologicalpsychologicalreligious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources. Various research groups, including positive psychology, are employing the scientific method to research questions about what 'happiness' is, and how it might be attained."

In his book, Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment, acclaimed author and noted Harvard University teacher, Tal Ben-Shahar, says that the question of finding lasting happiness is "the question of questions."

Throughout the centuries, people have pondered its place in the human experience. The United States' Declaration of Independence lists the pursuit of happiness as one of the inalienable rights granted by our Creator while acclaimed philosophers like Viktor Frankl say that "It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." Contemporary authors like Gretchen Rubin live their lives on its journey, and even Coca-Cola has gotten in on the adventure!

The quest for happiness is also important to those who call themselves THE 110 because happiness indicates a certain level of personal meaning and fulfillment. It is from this place of fulfillment that THE 110 are able to pour their lives into the lives others. One cannot pour out from a place of emptiness.

As we continue on this expedition together, we'll learn even more about what THE 110 is, and how we can live happier lives. Subscribe today.

MORE IN THIS SERIES:
Happiness 01: The Journey Begins

Monday, September 7, 2015

Book Excerpt: THE 110 Is Not A Cliché

Admittedly, the phrase, "You've gotta give 110%" is overused; and we need another overused phrase like we need a hole in the head.  I have a bit of an axe to grind with clichés; but there’s no use crying over spilled milk because, when it comes to the concept of 110%, I’m ready to talk the talk and walk the walk.  I may be preaching to the choir here; but we will leave no stone unturned as we look for the light at the end of the tunnel, even if we discover that all that glitters is not gold.  So, let’s not shoot ourselves in the foot with negativity toward clichés. Rather, let’s shoot for the moon.  And, even if you’re not the sharpest pencil in the box, you will find some amazing things in this book; so don’t cut off your nose to spite your face.  After all, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

Whew! Enough of that!

Get it?

The phrase, "You've gotta give 110%" can easily stand beside these clichés as annoying and somewhat hackneyed.

There is a huge difference between perception and reality; but sometimes, you can fool yourself into thinking that your perception is your reality. Yes, the reality is that 100% is your maximum capacity; but tragically, most people have embraced an output level far less than their actual potential.  By doing so, they have unwittingly accepted an inferior output as their perceived 100%.  This false, perceived capacity might, in actuality, only be 50%, 75% or even 90% of their actual capability; but they have accepted this faulty perception as their reality.

Maybe this is you.  Maybe, you're exhausted by your job and you can't give it any more of your efforts, even though you know that – on your best day – you're not really giving it your best effort.  Perhaps, you're drained by the notion of putting any more energy into chasing your dreams, even though you know that – in your heart – those dreams aren't getting any of your current energy.  Possibly, you're wiped out at the thought of giving your family and friends any more of your time, even though you know that – if you could just manage your time a little better – you would have plenty of time for them.

If that is where you are right now, that's okay.  Don't be discouraged.  Don't judge it.  Simply acknowledge it.  Become watchful.  Become aware.

I know where you are; I've been there myself.  It is the existence exhaustion that comes from automated activity.  This existence exhaustion wears you down and makes it so easy for you to settle in and to accept your perceived 100%.  However, you can awaken into a dynamic life; can't you?  You can push past your personal perception of 100%, and you can discover that you are capable of so much more than you might think.

Your thoughts are incredibly powerful.  Your thoughts create your reality, and I’m not using some psycho-hocus-pocus-mumbo-jumbo.  If you are not happy with your life and if you want to make a change, then start by changing your thoughts.  Don’t let your thoughts master you; instead, master your thoughts.  Wake up!  Get out of your automated activity and get into a dynamic life!  Automated activity caps your potential, but full awareness lets you awaken to the presence of your self-imposed glass ceiling so that you can shatter it!

THIS IS A MAJOR KEY TO REMEMBER – Your perception determines your limitation.  Whatever you think is your 100% – whether it is 50%, 75% or even 90% of your actual capacity – you can push past your current, perceived limitations.  You can become THE 110!

Saturday, September 5, 2015

Book Excerpt: 110% AND THE 110

You have probably heard of, or are at least familiar with, the concept of 110%; but if not, then simply put, 110% means all that you have and more!

110% is commonly thought to be an energy output above normal levels. It is that little extra push, that little extra effort at the end of a venture.

Coaches, bosses, and even motivational speakers use phrases like, "Come on, team; if we’re gonna win, we gotta give 110% . . ."; but the reason that most people have to be motivated and hyped up in order to give 110% in these little extra bursts of energy is because, in all likelihood, most people live at an output level much less than their actual potential the rest of the time.

"Come on, team; we’ve gotta give 110% . . ." is just short-hand pep talk for "I know none of you are used to maximizing your capacity or your energy on a day-in, day-out basis, so I’m asking you to put out a little extra effort for just a short amount of time so that we can . . . yada, yada, yada!"   You get my point.

But what if . . . ?

. . . what if there were people who didn't need short-term hype to reach their maximum potential?  What if there were people who possessed a drive within them to exceed their potential?  What if there were people who didn't just give 110% in tiny bursts, but what if they would live at 110% all the time?

Well, there are!  Those rare, exceptional people who live at 110% are THE 110.

You've heard of THE 110 before – just maybe by a different name(s): hero, overcomer, champion, victor, etc.

Those exceptional individuals who have the drive and the discipline to push themselves past their personal comfort, to break beyond their normal capacity, and to shatter their personal glass ceilings are the people who inspire the rest of us to be more than we think we can be.

Take a moment right now and imagine someone who has inspired you.  It could be a teacher, a parent, a civil servant, an athlete, or anyone that you ever idealized and maybe thought, "Golly-gosh, I want to be like them!"

Okay, maybe you didn't exclaim, "Golly-gosh;" but what was the character trait you saw in them that made you want to be like them?  What about them inspired you?  Was it their integrity, their vision, their passion, or their love for other people?  Was it because they refused to settle in and live a mundane life?

The heroes and champions who succeed at life – those who live at 110% – exist at an output level that staggers the average mind, and you can be a part of that elite group!

That's right!  You can be an inspiration to others!  You can be an overcomer and a victor!  You can be THE 110!  Anyone and everyone who wants to push beyond their current, perceived, maximum capacity and become more than they think they can be is a candidate to be part of this incredible movement.

THE 110 movement has a two-fold mission:
(1) THE 110 will empower you with the necessary principles to live above and beyond your perceived maximum potential.
(2) THE 110 will unleash you to give all that you have and more to making the world a better place.


Becoming THE 110 is a journey.  It is a process of being more than you are today and becoming better than you think you can be tomorrow.  I am privileged to take that journey with you; but you must be willing to give it your best effort to achieve your maximum output because, for THE 110, maximum output is the minimum requirement!

My upcoming book will define some of the philosophies and theories of what being THE 110 looks like, what it doesn't look like, and the 4-Principles of those who can proudly declare, "I am THE 110!"

Thursday, September 3, 2015

Happiness 01: The Journey Begins

Someone asked me recently, “Dallas, are you happy?

Cue the crickets.

My response stuck in my throat, and I couldn't give them a trite, "Yes." Honestly, I didn’t know how to answer the question. It led to a larger, existential questioning of life, of self, of purpose, et al.


What is happiness?

That question has led me toward a greater quest - to discover what true happiness means.

Is happiness the same as joy? Is it the same as contentment? Is it a general feeling of delight toward life? Is it determined by circumstances, or is a state that exists regardless of circumstances? The dictionary uses all of those words (joy, contentment, delight, etc.) to define "Happy," but I'm not sure they're all the same.

For me, joy seems to be the high points of life - those moments of elation. Joy seems momentary. Fleeting. Temporary. Joy seems to be the response to exciting, joy-inducing circumstances. Happiness, on the other hand, seems to be a more steadfast state. It seems, to me, to be closer to contentment. A more elevated form of contentment, perhaps, but closer to that. Contentment is a state of general satisfaction, and happiness seems to be the higher form of that.

I'm not saying that this is the very definition of happiness. I'm just trying to discover what true happiness is. After all, that person is still waiting for me to answer them. HaHa!

I'd like to hear what you think. Two questions: (1) What do you think true happiness is? (2) By that definition, are you happy?

Let me know in the comments below, and feel free to share with others. I'd like to keep the conversation going.

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

I Am Becoming . . .

I am becoming.

Constantly . . .
Moving.
Growing.
Developing.
Learning.

I'm not yet who I'm supposed to be, but I'm not who I once was. I know who I want to be, and yet, I don't have a clue.

I am a man, a boy, a husband, a father, and a son;
A leader, a follower, a prince, and a pauper;
An innovator, a craftsman, a dreamer, and a laborer.

I am filled with hopes, dreams, and vision,
Yet I fight with fears, doubts and anxieties.

I strive for the future while trying to live in the present and forget the past.
I long to blaze trails, yet I stick to well-worn paths.
I am a Christian, yet I am a sinner.
I succeed, and I fail.
I am strong, and I am weak.
I am human.

Who am I?
I am becoming.

Monday, August 31, 2015

Contemplating A More Simple Life

My last post was nearly four years ago.

Wow! Long time no write.
AnyWHO, a lot has happened in the past few years. I won't bore you with all the details. Suffice it to say that it has been quite a journey. Two amazing children. An incredible wife. Job changes. Apartment moves. Even a SuperBowl win for my team. Plenty to celebrate, and plenty to weep about as well.

These past few years have been good. Bad. Fun. Sad. Up. Down. The road of life is filled with many unexpected turns; isn't it?

Someone asked me recently about adult life, and my response was that I knew adult life would be difficult. I never had any illusions or - probably more accurately - delusions that it would be less than tough. However, I thought that, even though it would be difficult, it might feel more worthwhile.

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm alone.

But I don't think I am wrong, and I don't think I'm alone.

Are you there? Is life weighing on you a little too heavily? Are you running so fast that you've lost all track of why you were running in the first place?

I don't believe it's a generalization to say that there are many people racing through their hours, flying through their days, and wondering where their years are going.

Why?

What are we running after? What is the proverbial carrot that makes us chase the wind so vehemently? Are we making the chase more difficult and less worthwhile than it should be?

Maybe this type of thinking was birthed out of the Enlightenment that so heavily influenced the early development of Western culture. I don't know, but I do know that there is an insidious ideology that says, accomplishment = meaning.

That mantra has also, seemingly, become a part of American ideology. Could it be that the highway we take for the "Pursuit of Happiness" is paved with good intention? Is this the dark side of Capitalism?

Look - I'm not trying to get political. I'm getting existential. I'm wondering if the subtle indoctrination of accomplishment that seems to be so prevalent in our contemporary culture is running us ragged and stealing what should be a more worthwhile life-journey.

It's even made it's way into how we talk to our kids. We tell children that they can be whatever want. We fill their heads with tales of fictitious superheroes, and we elevate the celebrity lifestyle to god-like status. All the while, we tell our children that they can chase their passions, and we tell them that the sky is the limit. We lift their ambitions to the stars above them before their feet are even firmly planted on the ground below them.

I wonder if we would be more content if we just chose a more simple life.

This is a radical line of questioning, and it begs many questions about everything we've ever known.

Think about what a more simple life might look like for you. Think about how simplicity might serve your contentment. Share this blog with a friend. Ask each other questions. Discuss. Take time. Contemplate your contentment.

Perhaps if we weren't so busy trying to accomplish something great, life might actually feel more worthwhile. Maybe if we took pleasure in the little moments, then the hours, days and years wouldn't seem to fly by so quickly. Maybe.